Hong Le

Most people struggle the most with this aspect of detachment and it’s only natural. Most of us misunderstand love to be all about really holding on to the other person, trying to fix them and taking care of them in all ways possible, even if it comes at the cost of neglecting your own well being. It gets even worse when we let our lives revolve around certain relationships.

It might be relationship with your parents, with your spouse, with your best friends or anyone else who has a big influence in your life.

In all relationships, there is a need to practice a certain amount of detachment.

We might wonder why?

The answers are many. Detachment is needed so that you do not take everything personally because you don’t control their reactions. Detachment is needed so that you don’t seek their validation to the extent that your own opinions start to diminish. Detachment is needed to understand that love is about acceptance and not about control.

It is needed to understand that you alone are the master of your own lives and you need to draw boundaries so that others don’t control you.

Detachment in love is necessary to maintain that optimum amount of distance that is most essential for growth. No lines sum up the thought about loving detachment as these lines from Kahlil Gibran’s poem

“But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.”

Ref: Medium

Try not to overthink the process too much. Instead, enjoy the feeling of pausing to balance and catch your breath.

If you’re serious about change, you have to go through uncomfortable situations. Stop trying to dodge the process. It’s the only way to grow.

Be with someone who motivates you to do better in life because relationships are more than just falling in love. It’s about inspiring each other to become better versions of yourselves day in and day out.

When you are tired and lazy and do not have a single reason to wake from that cozy bed in the morning and study/work, there comes a small voice from deep inside your heart to let up and push forward.

That voice is discipline.

You plant seeds in the garden, you don’t dig them every day to see if they have sprouted yet. You simply water them and clear away the weeds — you know that the seeds will grow in time. 🌱

It could be $200 to $2000 dollars depending on what you’re looking for and then we can hone in.

Pick a range that has a low end to a high end.

What’s the event?! Daughter? Parent?

Here’s what we can do at the low end? What did you have in mind? At this point, you become the expert and the advisor. Show some empathy.

Lets go through it and see what you decide. Lets see what other people are buying. Pictures and videos is the package. No video; then focus on pictures.

Let me tell you what you can get with $2000.

Long list of things on the high end. Lets go through the list and see what you want.

In a growth mindset, people believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work — brains and talent are just the starting point. This view creates a love of learning and a resilience that is essential for great accomplishment.

Your price is too high.

Are you concern about cost or price?

Zig’s personal story:

Store 1: Swinn bike is $65

Store 2: 2nd bike is only $34, handle bars, sprockets and bars 4 + 5 + 5 cost to repair. $54 / 6 months

Swinn: $65 / 10 = 6 per year

Price is one time thing, cost is a lifetime thing.